In my perspective, you should take advantage of the little time you might spend with your elderly relatives.
When my great aunt fell in a revolving door and hit her head on the glass, I was shocked. Because of that accident, the thought that I always wanted to avoid, the thought that scared me the most, came to me: death.
I try very hard to spend more time with my elderly relatives as much as I can. When I go to visit my grandparents in New York, I feel bad for them when they have a problem. Sometimes I help them, but most of the time they say, "It's okay, we can do it ourselves." It is hard too see my grandparents struggle to make me happy and not themselves. I think that my grandparents are trying to have a good few years left of their lives and live those years with an open mind.
When I was little, I never wanted to talk to my grandparents on the phone because they had an accent that was hard to understand. But now when I hear their voices on the phone, I think, "Will this be the last time I ever get to speak to them?" I actually enjoy talking to them on the phone now. When ever I go over to New York, I try to spend as much time with them, even if they are doing things that are boring for me like going to the museum for hours.
I have noticed that my behavior has changed around them. I have been a lot more thoughtful around them and even though it is hard, I try to think about what they want instead of what I want.