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Brandon Vu: Go Eat

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Brandon Vu reflects on one of the lessons his mother taught him about eating.

Growing up, I was filled with energy and sometimes, all that energy would get me in trouble.

I would run around the house too quickly or jump on the bed too hard, upsetting my dad. He’d tell me to stand against the wall, raise my arms, and just stay there. While all my siblings laughed at me, our mom would be the one to chew out my father and tell him he was being irrational.

And after she would chew him out, my mom would grab my hand, guide me to the kitchen, and make a plate of braised pork belly over rice, my Vietnamese comfort meal.

My mom was always the person to get me out of sticky situations. In grade school while running during gym class, I accidentally wet myself. I was sent to the office and I remember crouching down, fearing what my mom would say. She was in Sacramento at the time and when the school called her, she immediately drove from Sacramento to Fairfield. When she finally arrived, I couldn’t even look her in the eye.

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But my mom got out of the car, lifted my chin, and surprised me with a new pair of underwear. She hugged me and said, “Everything will be okay, còn.”

Later that day, she took me to a buffet. But I refused to eat because I was so disappointed. So, my mom, again, lifted my chin, and said, “It’s okay honey, go eat.”

Those were the same words I heard after my first heartbreak, after small disagreements, and after getting in trouble with dad. And after my mom lifted my chin, she wiped my tears away with her thumb and my cheek reeked of lavender — her favorite color, her favorite flower and her favorite scent.

She’s taught me that it’s OK to be wrong and it’s OK to be disappointed, but it’s never OK to not eat.

So, every time I have a bad day, I make sure I make my favorite dish.

With a Perspective, I’m Brandon Vu.

Brandon Vu is a Vietnamese-American educator in the Bay Area. He has a cat named Raymond and a mother named Julie.

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