Maya Hardin: A Negative Outlook

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It may seem standard for us to be hard on ourselves and expect perfection but after one experience, Maya Hardin shares a story about how she learned balance.

Are you easy on yourself? Do you let yourself off the hook before even trying that hard? Or, instead, are you hard on yourself?

I definitely was. I thought that if I expected something bad to happen, if I was hard on myself, then I wouldn’t get disappointed if something bad does happen. And if that bad thing doesn’t happen, then I would be pleasantly surprised and happy that something good happened. This worked, for a while. Until one time. I was waiting for the next morning when I would take the dreaded math test that no one was looking forward to. As always, I was super hard on myself and somehow, for some reason, I expected the worst. And, low and behold, the worst happened. I didn’t pass.

The night before, I kept myself up; the answers to various math equations circling around my head. ‘The square root of 64 is 8… the decimal form of ⅖ is 0.4…’ “You know this stuff,” I said to myself. “You can get it right. You have to.” In this instance, instead of thinking positively, like I should have, I was thinking negatively about the math test coming up in the day ahead. That's how I thought for a long time. Being hard on myself may have been a good thing at times, like if I push myself to be the best I could be, then I will end up being successful.

However, when being hard on yourself means you start belittling yourself and anticipating the worst, then it becomes a problem. Being hard on yourself is not always the way to go. Although, being easy on yourself isn’t exactly great either. Both can have positive and negative effects on your life.

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Through my personal experience, I have learned that maybe being hard on myself isn’t always the better option considering my choices. Especially when it means working for countless hours trying to be the best. I invite people to find common ground between these two ways of thinking. Even though this may be hard at times, it is possible. I found some common ground to enhance my outlook on life. It might be difficult at times, but it’s certainly worth it.

With a Perspective, I’m Maya Hardin.

Maya Hardin is an eighth-grader at Herman Intermediate School in San Jose. Her piece was produced with free curriculum from KQED’s Perspectives Youth Media Challenge.