In her new book, Marin psychologist and author Madeline Levine exposes the pitfalls of over-parenting, and argues for a new definition of success and achievement. She joins us in the studio to share her advice for raising healthy and happy kids. How do you define success for your child?
In her new book Teach Your Children Well: Parenting for Authentic Success, Marin psychologist and author Madeline Levine exposes the pitfalls of over-parenting, and argues for a new definition of success and achievement.
Levine uses the term "authentic success" to differentiate success as it is traditionally viewed: titles, money, good grades, and prestigious schools. In the forward to her book, Levine writes that parents also need to encourage kids to "know and appreciate themselves deeply; to approach the world with zest; to find work that is exciting and satisfying, friends and spouses who are loving and loyal; and to hold a deep belief that they have something meaningful to contribute to society."
Levine joined host Dave Iverson in studio to discuss her book. We've created a list of tips based on that interview.
1. Remember the Basics
According to Levine, research shows that "the four most important factors in parenting are reliability, consistency, stability and non-interference." She says that most people don't argue with the first three but that she receives push back on the last one -- non-interference. Levine says learning from mistakes (the kind that occur when parents don't interfere) is an important skill -- one that employers say too many young workers lack.