On why she took the role
I was actually really seeking a project that was about loneliness. I think a lot of people, they think, "Oh, she must have wanted to do this sexy, cool, fun movie." But it's just about a woman who is deeply lonely, because she has abandonment issues because her own mother left her when she was very young; so she has trust issues, so she can't let anybody in. And Ramona, the character played by Jennifer Lopez, becomes like a mother figure to her. And I chose it because it tackles loneliness, but it sort of gets it on all sides. It's the beginning of it, and then struggling through it, and then finally not feeling alone in the world, and then when you lose that again. It really was just such a dynamic story arc. ...
I wasn't lonely at that period in my life. I was actually doing great. But I do think loneliness is kind of pervasive in America right now—and in a way that we're not recognizing. I think because politically, we're so polarized. And also, social media just makes people lonely in a way they don't realize because they're still getting some kind of social stimulation—but it's not tactile. So I think one of the best things that films or stories can do for us is to make people feel less alone with their own feelings. We're so used to looking at these Instagram feeds where everyone has a perfect life. And what Hustlers really does is it shows that this woman who, yeah, she looks really flashy, she's a dancer, all this on the outside; but inside, she's really lonely and she just wants a real friend. And I think that's—if we're going to find any type of healing in this country, it's going to be by interacting with each other, not villainizing and shaming each other.
On acting in a movie that doesn't pit two women against each other
No catfights. And the thing that I've always said is that traditionally, in a patriarchal society, whether it's in the boardroom or in an action movie, there's usually only one or two women. And I think that it's the fact there seem to be so few positions available that makes somebody competitive. It's the scarcity, not the gender. And I think working on Hustlers really proved that women are not inherently catty or competitive, because we, on Hustlers, we were all women: woman director, woman writer. And it was our table, you know? It was not patriarchal—it was matriarchal, I guess. And it was so great because so many times when I'm in an environment that's a lot of men, I feel like I have to either be cutesy or girly or sexy, or I have to act like I'm one of the guys to fit in. ...
And so when we were all in locker room scenes of Hustlers—all women, all shapes and sizes, all different ages, all ethnicities—nobody had to pretend like they were one of the guys. We didn't have to act really sexy. We could openly talk about, like, "Ugh, this boob is bigger than the other," whatever. Just these things that we could just be open about, because we weren't being assessed by our appearance in order to be allowed in the space—because it was our space.
On how her personal background affects her portrayal and career
I didn't work in strip clubs back then, but I worked in restaurants a lot. I did bottle service for a club for a little bit. But yeah, I definitely related to the struggle that comes along, and the fear and scarcity complexes that come along, with not having a legacy in the place you grew up. Not growing up with privilege, but also just—there's a psychological legacy that comes from knowing that you have ancestors, great-great-great-grandparents, who have been in this country and are of this country and have survived. I think it's statistically proven that like if a kid has a parent who has gone to college, they're more likely to go to college ... I've said representation equals possibility, and sometimes the parents model that behavior.
But for me, I don't have anybody in my family who ever entered show biz or the arts. And the path that I've sort of made for myself in this career is also something I haven't really seen a model for, in terms of a role model for, exactly the way I've been trying to do it. So it can be scary, and it can ruffle feathers for sure. And I think that Destiny also doesn't have the confidence of a legacy of lineage in the country, because her parents are immigrants, like mine were.
On living in the moment
I mean, I do this [acting] because I love it. ... I think one of the best things an actor can have is sort of what they call being in the moment, which I naturally have—which is not always a good thing. So I think the reason I stayed in it is because I wasn't thinking about the future. Because if I had systemically laid out all the possibilities and thought of the future, I don't think I ever would have entered this profession at all.
And so to really live in the moment and not measure your words or actions based on anxieties of the future or worries of the past is a real fun gift to have when you're acting. In life it has not always been so fun, because I can be really reactive and dramatic. So I'm just trying to honestly use this moment in this profession to learn more about myself and the kind of person I want to be and to forgive myself for mistakes.
On her recent response to Fresh off the Boat being renewed for another season, which was initially judged out of context, she says
Wu: It really broke my heart that my moment of heat, where I was just disappointed because I couldn't do a play that I really wanted to do, that had an impact on the people who I love on this crew, and how some people might have perceived that it was a reflection of how I felt about the show. Which: nothing could be further from the truth, because I love the show and I love the people on it. I was just temporarily ... I was just bummed because I'd been looking forward to doing this other project.
Garcia-Navarro: Do you think you got more of it because you're a woman and a person of color?
Wu: What do you think? [laughing]
Garcia-Navarro: I don't know. I thought I would ask the question and just put it there out there.
Wu: Yeah. I definitely think that there's often harsher criticism ... I think it was especially disturbing for some people because my career is kind of unprecedented. You know, I led the first Asian American network sitcom in Hollywood in over 20 years [Fresh off the Boat], and then five years later I led the first all-Asian cast of a major studio Hollywood movie in 25 years [Crazy Rich Asians]. But it's funny—it's like because I've gotten this position that wasn't available at the table, I should never complain. ...
I think a part of us should stop being grateful for scraps from the table and demand the whole table. Because it shouldn't have been history that I was the first in that TV show or movie. It shouldn't be historic that Hollywood made a story that gives an Asian American a full human experience. That should be regular.
On if Hollywood is trending in the right direction regarding women and people of color
I always compare it to exercising. It's not like you can take one boot camp and then be fit for life. It's a maintenance. So I think that we've gone through a bit of a boot camp in terms of understanding bias and institutional racism and stuff like that ... and I think now you have to take the exercises you learned from boot camp, and apply them to your real choices in a way that makes you and everybody healthier.
I mean, it's funny. I actually know a lot of guys who have been saying, like, "Oh, you know, it's a great time in Hollywood for women." And you know, male directors will say, like, "Oh, it's really great to be a woman right now ... I used to get all these jobs, and I can't—it's great, I'm glad" ...
And there are many things to say to that. But one thing I would have liked to say is that it's a great time for men. Because I think men are finally getting to hear these stories that they've been robbed of—these stories told from a woman's point of view. And if you're an artist, there's nothing you want more than learning more about the human experience. So if you get to learn a perspective that you didn't get growing up, how awesome. How awesome that you get that. But if you're only worrying about me and my experience and what jobs I get, then: Well, there's the problem. It's like: The world is not centered in your experience. And the more experiences you get that are outside of your own are gonna improve your work. And then that will improve your integrity. And so I think it's a great time for men because they have the opportunity to see and experience this content that they haven't before.