Positive Encouragement

• Elaine

  To me, positive encouragement means trying to get someone to do better, but without discouraging that person. I think that positive encouragement is a really good way to push someone to try harder. A lot of people try to use reverse psychology instead, but I think that it just puts them down and cause, them to have low self esteem. Like in my family, my parents keep wanting me and my sister to do better in school, so their way of pushing us is to keep complaining about all the things that we were doing wrong, and they would always compare us to our cousins. I understand that they really care about me and just want me to get a good education to help me out in the future, but sometimes kids might take it the wrong way and have really bad self esteem and try to harm themselves or something like that.

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• Janny

  I feel that positive encouragement is very important to me. It's important because it usually improves my self-esteem and my self-confidence.

  From personal experience, my mom usually doesn't encourage me. When I get good grades at school, I can't wait until I get home because I want her to praise me and to feel proud of me. But when I get home, I show her my grades, and she just says, "Good." Good is not enough for me. I want her to say words like "excellent", or "fantastic," or words and phases like "I'm proud of you Janny." But when I ask her, she doesn't really praise me that much. Sometimes, I feel that I got my grades for nothing. One time, I even asked my mom to praise me more often, but she just said, "If I praise you too much, you won't improve. I have to tell you all your weaknesses so you can improve them in the future. Talking about your strengths is of no use."

  Now what she says just crushes my feelings. I want to earn good grades so that my parents can just be a little proud of me.

  So, if parents encourage their teens more often, teens would feel that their parents support them. Therefore, their self-esteem will be higher.

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• Lisa

  Positive encouragement is very important to me. It's important because it's a key part in life to my self-confidence and ego.

  Having positive encouragement in your life can improve your ego. Positive encouragement can push your child's ego into extremes. It also encourages the child way of thinking into a positive way. For example, "I can do better than that. I just have to set my mind to it." Encouraging your child will give them success in the future.

  Encouraging your child will also give your child self-confidence. Without self-confidence, the child would do badly in school. Self-confidence helps your child understand the value of working hard. It plays a role in hard work, because if your child doesn't feel confident with their work, he or she has lower self-endurance and ego.

  From my own experiences, my parents always encourage me to work harder in my daily life. When I listen to them, improve my grades. I have more confidence in myself than before, which helped me out in school. That's why I think positive encouragement matters in your child's life.

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• Queena

Positive encouragement is very important to me but it doesn't happen all the time. Sometimes I want my parents to encourage me on how I'm doing in school, and I want them to be proud of what I'm doing at work. I'm not sure if they know what my interests are and how I love my job. But they do know that I do radio shows. I guess I'm not proud of what I do but they are. They always want me to bring home radio shows, but I never did. I feel that my radio shows are not good enough or should I say I feel sort of embarrass.

Sometimes my dad can be very childish and funny accidentally. I laugh at him and he laughs back. He always buys toy cars and BB guns to play with. The funniest thing is that he plays with my little cousin. Although sometimes I want to tell him things I've achieved he'll just say, "Well, keep it up." He doesn't ask me or tell me what I should improve on. When I got my license, I knew he was very happy for me. He suddenly ask me if I want to add my name to the auto insurance. He also said "Wow, you passed on your first try." Ok that's sort of an encouragement, but not directly.

I think regular compliment and encouragement are ways to communicate with each other day to day; it gives everyone confidence. When I go shopping with my mom, she'll give me advice and she'll tell me when I look nice in something. She even told me that I had a better smile and personality than my older sister. Maybe that's an encouragement or a comparison. See, even regular conversations and actions can show that parents care and encourage their children.

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• Tenile

  Say your thoughts in a positive way
  Until you've said what you have come to say
  Positive encouragement is good for us
  Pressure and punishment isn't a must
  Open communication is the way to start
  Reveal your feelings from deep inside your heart
  Tell us that you are proud of us too
  Soon we will come and say, "We love you!"